TIARAS TEARS AND TRIUMPHS with SANDY J Podcast - Helping Victims and Survivors of Abusive Relationships Heal and Grow
Ep 30 -Getting back into the game of life and celebrating your wins after abuse

Ep 30 -Getting back into the game of life and celebrating your wins after abuse

January 31, 2021

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE GAIL TEEVAN INTERVIEW

GETTING BACK INTO THE GAME OF LIFE AND CELEBRATING YOUR WINS AFTER ABUSE

On today’s show I have Gail Teevan, a survivor and a coach with a heart for health and healing. She was a professional basketball player with The All American Redheads, and in her time with the team, she toured all over the US and played against men “winning 80% of the games”; Amazing! She was amongst a group of women who were trailblazing for women in the game.

Like many Gail has pivoted from her massage therapy business last year when Covid-19 hit and has redirected to become a health and wellness coach, utilizing a blend of her therapeutic practices and her team building experience to create a program to help other's heal and build their mind muscles.

She promises to ignite hope, clarity and balance in the lives of those she helps.

She is sweet and playful and knows all too well how to achieve success with focus on strategies, with a combination of training with a good dose of fun thrown into the mix.

Gail understands that there are rules to the game of life, but ultimately it is a game, so being energized and having fun along the way is what keeps us playing our best game.

Remember that every day is a new day and a new opportunity to move in the direction of your dreams. Every day is a clean slate to start fresh.

So hang in there and keep striving to regain your personal power.

For anyone interested in getting some coaching support to get your life back on track in 2021, please contact me.

I work online via zoom face to face calls, which allows you the flexibility to work with me wherever you happen to be located and wherever you are comfortable to have private confidential conversations.

If you would love to get unstuck and know deep down you will achieve far more by getting the support of a transformational coach, I would love to help you get your life back on the right track.

If you want to fast track your journey to triumph over your trials, click this link 

Here are the top 10 tips of today’s episode

  • Get support through therapy and counselling to give voice to the challenges you are facing.
  • Ask yourself what are you tolerating in your life and do you want to keep putting up with the same thing?
  • If you are facing a fear of staying with something harmful and are also facing the fear of not knowing what will happen if you leave that harmful situation, choose the fear that will guide you to the safety and protection you need and deserve.
  • When you break away from a toxic situation you learn to trust yourself again.
  • Know that each time you stumble you have a point of reference to show you that you were able to get back up again.
  • To be able to step away from the judging, the guilt and the shame, know that it is not your fault.
  • Know that nothing that has happened to you changes your innate worth; you are precious!
  • Dance your way to happiness. If you are feeling down, put on an upbeat song and dance yourself happy.
  • Water is very therapeutic. If you live near water, spend time near the water. If you don’t and you can have a bath or even a footspa with some Epsom salts, this can really help relax when you are feeling stressed.
  • Plan ahead for something you look forward to, this really helps elevate your mood and make you feel more optimistic.

   BONUS You can retrain your muscle memory through your mind.

If you would like to contact Gail Teevan please use the links below.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gail.marks.549

Email: teevancoaching@gmail.com

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

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Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

Ep 29 - Why it’s right to write to right your life

Ep 29 - Why it’s right to write to right your life

January 24, 2021

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE PASTOR PAULETTE INTERVIEW

WHY IT’S RIGHT TO WRITE TO RIGHT YOUR LIFE

On today’s episode I have special guest Pastor Paulette.

Paulette Harper is Amazon #1 two-time award-winning, best-selling author. She is a sought-after speaker and pastor.  Her mission is to help women find hope through transformation, restoration and reclaiming their lives via workshops, conferences and seminars.

 

She partners with women who are broken and looking for solutions! She specializes in helping women shift their perspective on crises, push past barriers and discover their purpose, so they become the best version of themselves. She specializes in helping women share their stories and become published author’s.

Remember that every day is a new day and a new opportunity to move in the direction of your dreams. Every day is a clean slate to start fresh.

So hang in there and keep striving to regain your personal power.

For anyone interested in getting some coaching support to get your life back on track in 2021, please join me on my Eight-week Triumph Over Trials Coaching Program in January. If you are looking for support to get you over the hurdles you are facing, this program can help you build a strong foundation to help you become empowered to take back control over your life.

This program is available online via zoom face to face calls, which allows you the flexibility to work with me wherever you happen to be located.

If you would love to get unstuck and know deep down you will achieve far more by getting the support of a transformational coach, I would love to help you get your life back on the right track.

If you want to fast track your journey to triumph over your trials, click this link 

Here are the top 10 tips of today’s episode

  • Accept yourself for who you are, for what you have, for all your mistakes to help you find your way back after a relationship breaks down.
  • The what ifs can keep you stuck in regret.
  • In finding out who you are; you’re able to face your fears.
  • Own that to where you are
  • It is wanting to break free from the abuse
  • See yourself as a jewel
  • Find something that you enjoy and get involved in that and grow in that, this allows your energy to flow towards the thing that you love about your life, rather than your energy be taken by what you have lost and what you don’t have after the breakdown in a relationship.
  • Be prepared to do the inner work, like a caterpillar in a cocoon, where the inner work which is really hard needs to take place before the butterfly can emerge and fly.
  • You’ve got to chisel away at your barriers and appreciate the small wins, because over time they become bigger wins
  • Journal; it is a measurement of your growth and devleopment

   BONUS The power in writing: even if no one reads it, in writing it down, you released it.

If you would like to find out more about Pastor Paulette Harper and her work please use the links below.

Website: https://pauletteharper.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100010047302425

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theauthorsexperience/

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

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Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

Ep 28 - How to unleash your woman power on the other side of abuse

Ep 28 - How to unleash your woman power on the other side of abuse

January 17, 2021

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE NARINDER KAUR INTERVIEW

HOW TO UNLEASH YOUR WOMAN POWER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF ABUSE

On today’s episode I have special guest Narinder Kaur.

Narinder is a Women Empowerment Coach who helps women “To get back to their true self”. She helps woman who are suffering from indignity, disrespect, humiliation, and toxic dependence.

A single mother of a special (needs) girl angel named Prabhjot Kaur (9 years) Narinder came into spirituality in 2011, she is a Corporate Professional, Pranic Healer, Motivational speaker, Life Coach, NLP Practitioner, Traveller, and a Fitness Enthusiast.  

She is fully in charge of her own journey, she believes in living life to  the fullest. A woman with values, standards, radiant smile, virtues, clarity of mind and thought. She laughs without fear of the future. She believed, she could so she did. She says never apologize for being powerful woman. This is the beauty behind the moment “you decide to be yourself”. 

 

This episode goes deep into Narinder’s experience of breaking free from a narcissistic relationship, which spanned 15 years and took her to an all-time low where she was fighting for her life after her immune system broke down.  This moment became her turning point and you can hear her speak in depth about what she did to turn her life around, to go on to become an inspiration for other women to become masters of their own destiny.

Narinder has just launched a 5-day workshop to help unleash the power of women. If you would like more information or would like to participate in this work-shop please use this link.

5 Day Roadmap to Unleash the Potential of Women

 

Every day is a new day and a new opportunity to move in the direction of your dreams. Every day is a clean slate to start fresh.

 

So hang in there and keep striving to regain your personal power.

For anyone interested in getting some coaching support to get your life back on track in 2021, I will be available to start my Twelve-week Triumph Over Trials Coaching Program in January. If you are looking for support to get you over the hurdles you are facing, this program can help you build a strong foundation to help you become empowered to take back control over your life.

This program is available online via zoom face to face calls, which allows you the flexibility to work with me wherever you happen to be located.

If you would love to get unstuck and know deep down you will achieve far more by getting the support of a transformational coach, I would love to help you get your life back on the right track.

If you want to fast track your journey to triumph over your trials, click this link 

Here are the top 10 tips of today’s episode

  • Take charge of your life, by putting healthy boundaries around yourself.
  • Don’t rely on society to support your goals and dreams, make your own goals which align with your dreams. Be the master of your own destiny.
  • What you think matters and what you think you want for your life is important.
  • If someone is asking you to compromise yourself and your values, ask yourself is this going to be good for you in the long run?
  • There is power in joy and laughter, so try and keep your sense of humour intact as it will give you real strength to get through life’s challenges.
  • If you are starting over from having nothing work on getting income to help give you security and help you meet your basic needs, even if this is to seek support through government welfare, if you are unable to re-enter the workforce for whatever reason.
  • When you are able get some form of independent income flowing as this will help you feel more independent and will help push away any feelings of depressive feelings that you are not good enough.
  • If you are unable to work, you may want to explore studies to help you in your vocation training, or just help you to gain more skills and develop the confidence to go down a new career path.
  • Passion drives us, not motivation. So put your energy into things you are passionate about.
  • If you are feeling stuck, get out of your four walls and travel somewhere, even if it is as simple as going for a walk around the block. This will help you literally shift the way you feel.

   BONUS

  • Once you become fearless, life becomes limitless.
  • And a woman can rebuild her life from the bricks she has had thrown at her.
  • Women are powerful, they are the womb of the whole universe.
  • God resides where the woman is worshipped.

INVITATION

If you would like to explore being part of a virtual choir to sing What Happens (When a Woman Takes Power) by Artemisia let me know.

If you would like to find out more about this brilliant Trio, please use this link.

Podcast: The Woman Power Unleashed with Narinder Kaur

Instagram: Woman Power Unleashed

Facebook: Narinder Kaur

Facebook Group: The Woman Power Unleashed

http://www.artemisiatrio.com/

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

BEFORE YOU GO….

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  • If you want to CONNECT or WORK with me, or approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

  • If you want to be a part of the Private Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Facebook Group click this link

 

Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

Ep 27  - Dealing with Bullying and Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

Ep 27 - Dealing with Bullying and Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

January 10, 2021

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE ALI SUGARS INTERVIEW

TIPS FOR ADDRESSING BULLYING AND SEXUAL HARRASSMENT IN THE WORKPLACE

ALI SUGARS, aka “the motivation mama” is a woman’s transformation coach and is the host of the Purple Warrior’s Podcast. She is a survivor of social, emotional, verbal, sexual and financial abuse. She uses her experience to help other abuse survivors discover their empowered voice to become unapologetically power-house women.

The focus of this interview is workplace bullying and sexual harassment.  The underlying message is that it is not only ok to stand up for yourself, but it is necessary to protect your safety and sanity and that of your colleagues.

TOP 10 TIPS

  • Keep records of incidents, as this helps you give context to support your case.
  • Keep hard copies of any signed agreements.
  • Be prepared to speak up and speak out about what is happening; advocate for yourself.
  • Engage in counselling to help support you through the process, you may be able to access free counselling support through your place of employment.
  • Listen to your body, if physical illness is manifesting, consider how that might relate to an area of your life which might be toxic, like workplace relations, or relations with an individual.
  • Know that the workplace bullying and/or sexual harassment is not your fault and you don’t deserve it.
  • Speak to the contact officer in your workplace, to have a confidential discussion and they will be able to facilitate the correct procedures to address your concerns. If you don’t have a contact officer at your work, talk to your doctor, or a free online counselling service, about your concerns and they will help guide you with avenues to go down.
  • If you choose to have a face-to-face meeting to address your concerns with the perpetrator you are allowed to take a support person in with you
  • Give yourself permission to seek the appropriate support to help put a stop to inappropriate things which are happening, reminding yourself that you were not the one creating the circumstance causing you distress.
  • You deserve to be treated with respect.

 

1800RESPECT Use this link for free online counselling support within Australia

Heads Up Organization Us this link for helpful information on workplace bullying and sexual harassment in the workplace in Australia.

If you are ready to feel strong and empowered to face 2021 with a new resolve to keep striving for things which you want, need, and deserve.

I encourage you to take this time to reflect on what is important to you and set yourself some goals for 2021.

Every day is a new day and a new opportunity to move in the direction of your dreams.

If you would like to connect with Ali Sugars here are her links.

PODCAST | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM | YOUTUBE | LINKEDIN

And don’t forget I am here for you too as a women’s transformation coach and exploring ways in which I can help you is as easy as clicking the link to make a time to chat with me. This call is on me.

If you want to fast track your journey to triumph over your trials, click this link 

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

BEFORE YOU GO….

  • If you listen to the Podcast and you like it, please SUBSCRIBE, you will automatically be updated with new episodes as soon as they are available.

 

  • If you like the episode, please leave a REVIEW for other people to know that this has value.

 

  • If you know of anyone you think this Podcast might help, please SHARE it.

 

  • If you want to CONNECT or WORK with me, or approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

  • If you want to be a part of the Private Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Facebook Group click this link

 

Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

Ep 26 - Working through custody issues

Ep 26 - Working through custody issues

January 3, 2021

EPISODE NOTES FOR HEIDI CARLSON

WORKING THROUGH CUSTODY ISSUES

On today’s show I have Heidi Carlson of Survivor Coaching.
She is a faith based singing Life Coach.  She has been in Family Court litigation over the past 11 years, she has spent over $140k and experienced over 70 motion hearings fighting for custody. Now she helps Women reduce their legal fees and helps them get to a state of being free from their abuser. 

One of the complex issues she is passionate in helping women with is working through custody battles with a narcissistic partner.

 

Custody battles and property settlements can be complex to navigate and it is great to find advocates to help support you through these judicial processes.

 

That’s why this interview is here to hopefully shed some light on tips and strategies to help you find some hope in the challenges you are facing.  

 

I hope that this interview inspires you too, to RISE and SHINE!

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

TOP 10 TAKEAWAYS

  • Have an attorney who has experience with narcissistic relationships and domestic violence.
  • If possible, stay in the family home for during a custody dispute and or property settlement.
  • 3) If you are feeling in immediate danger call emergency services.
  • Having recorded information of incidents and patterns of abuse help to support your case.
  • If an attorney is going to charge for an initial consultation move on.
  • To reduce stress from negotiations request that all communication go via email and only check email every 24 hours.
  • To reduce the overwhelm turn off all notifications as it can trauma bond you.
  • Get a good therapist to work through the trauma.
  • Abstain for alcohol and other substance use as it compounds depressive feelings and doesn’t fix anything.
  • Have as many set plans in place as possible to minimise conflict.

Family Wizard App: For all of your co parenting communication on one platform click this link family wizard

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

 

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT HEIDI CARLSON 

 

Website: https://heidicarlsoncoaching.com/

 

Email: mailto:heidi.carlson@heidicarlsoncoaching.com

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heidilcarlson

BEFORE YOU GO….

  • If you listen to the Podcast and you like it, please SUBSCRIBE, you will automatically be updated with new episodes as soon as they are available.

 

  • If you like the episode, please leave a REVIEW for other people to know that this has value.

 

  • If you know of anyone you think this Podcast might help, please SHARE it.

 

  • If you want to CONNECT or WORK with me, or approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

  • If you want to be a part of the Private Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Facebook Group click this link

 

Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

Ep 25 - What Happens When a Woman Takes Power?

Ep 25 - What Happens When a Woman Takes Power?

December 27, 2020

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE ARTEMISIA INTERVIEW

WHAT HAPPENS… WHEN A WOMAN TAKES POWER?

On today’s episode I have an amazing vocal Trio from America called ARTEMISIA.

Featuring Diana Lawrence, Alexandra Olsavsky and Kaitlin Foley, this female-forward vocal trio harnesses the power of the voice and tells stories through the vocal traditions of the world!

Their song, What Happens has a strong, clear message of empowerment about what women are truly capable of achieving.

This episode celebrates women’s courage and resolve in overcoming adversity.

With the many challenges 2020 has presented I wanted to end this year focusing on how strong women are and just how much women are capable of.

I want you to feel strong and empowered to face 2021 with a new resolve to keep striving for things which you want, need, and deserve.

I encourage you to take this time to reflect on what is important to you and set yourself some goals for 2021.

Every day is a new day and a new opportunity to move in the direction of your dreams.

For anyone interested in getting some coaching support to get your life back on track in 2021, I will be available to start my Twelve-week Triumph Over Trials Coaching Program in January. If you are looking for support to get you over the hurdles you are facing, this program can help you build a strong foundation to help you become empowered to take back control over your life.

I have one scholarship to give away for the Triumph Over Trials Coaching Program to give away to the first person to contact me enquiring about this giveaway after listening to this episode.

This coaching program is currently priced at $2,000, but I have discounted it for the month of January to make is easy for you to take up the offer.

The January 2021 special price is $1,000.

Because I don’t want there to be anything standing in the way of you being able to do this transformational program, I also offer a payment plan. I know from my own past, that payment plans worked well with a need to budget week to week. So, feel free to talk this over with me, if this is something you feel you need to get you on the road to helping you get your life back on track.

Now, is a great time to use that energy from the new year resolutions you make to actually do all you can to realize all that you are trying to accomplish with the help and support of someone to help you stay on track.

So many people make their resolutions but soon give up because they find it too hard to achieve on their own and in their own strength.

I would love to see you get unstuck and get your life back on the right track.

If you want to fast track your journey to triumph over your trials, click this link 

Here are the top 10 tips of today’s episode

  • In uncertain times try and be flexible and try and stay positive.
  • Essentially, we all have a story to tell, so don’t feel as though yours is unimportant.
  • You have more power within a group, so try and connect with like-minded people.
  • Music can be very healing, so try and find music that is uplifting and speaks to you.
  • Everything developmental in life is a process, so allow time and space for this process to take place.
  • When you don’t know something, remind yourself that even if you can’t do something right now, you can learn how to do it.
  • Don’t be an island, you don’t have to do everything on your own; remember you are part of a community.
  • Set goals to help you achieve the changes you would like to bring about.
  • Allow yourself the time and space to be real about the challenges.
  • Journal to reconnect with yourself and get it out of yourself and onto paper.

BONUS    Be kind to yourself, give yourself and other’s grace as you go through challenges.

INVITATION

If you would like to explore being part of a virtual choir to sing What Happens (When a Woman Takes Power) by Artemisia let me know.

If you would like to find out more about this brilliant Trio, please use this link.

http://www.artemisiatrio.com/

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

BEFORE YOU GO….

  • If you listen to the Podcast and you like it, please SUBSCRIBE, you will automatically be updated with new episodes as soon as they are available.

 

  • If you like the episode, please leave a REVIEW for other people to know that this has value.

 

  • If you know of anyone you think this Podcast might help, please SHARE it.

 

  • If you want to CONNECT or WORK with me, or approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

  • If you want to be a part of the Private Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Facebook Group click this link

 

Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

 

Ep 24 - What to do when you feel Christmas fear instead of Christmas cheer!

Ep 24 - What to do when you feel Christmas fear instead of Christmas cheer!

December 20, 2020

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE CHRISTMAS EPISODE

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL CHRISTMAS FEAR INSTEAD OF CHRISTMAS CHEER

With Christmas just around the corner, this episode is dedicated to women who are facing challenges because of an abusive relationship.

My aim is to provide you with some strategies to stay safe and have some useful tips to help you get through this difficult time of the year.

Christmas should be a time of peace, goodwill, and joy.

But what about where there is a breakdown in a relationship, or there is a cycle of abuse in a relationship?

What does this time of the year represent for women and children effected by family violence?

Instead of feeling excited about Christmas women effected by domestic violence can be left with feelings of dread.

Knowing how complex it is like to navigate through this time of the year safely is why I have put together this episode to hopefully help you feel supported.

Your safety is the number one priority this Christmas and that of your children, if you are a parent too.

Just a reminder if you are in immediate danger call the police.

If you are feeling isolated and scared and do not know who to turn to, use a free online domestic violence counselling support service.

If you need food relief, turn to charitable organizations for support.

If you are struggling to tap into support, you can get in touch with me and I will try to connect you with a domestic violence support organization. I cannot guarantee that I will get back to you immediately, it may take me 24 hours to reply.

I am back on board for my coaching work from 28 December, but will be checking in with my messages each day.

For anyone interested in getting some coaching support to get your life back on track in 2021, I will be available to start my Twelve week Triumph Over Trials Coaching Program in January. If you are looking for support to get you over the hurdles you are facing, this program can help you build a strong foundation to help you become empowered to take back control over your life.

I have one scholarship to give away for the Triumph Over Trials Coaching Program to give away to the first person to contact me enquiring about this giveaway after listening to this episode.

This coaching program is currently priced at $2,000, but I have discounted it for the month of January to make is easy for you to take up the offer.

The January 2021 special price is $1,000.

Because I don’t want there to be anything standing in the way of you being able to do this transformational program, I also offer a payment plan. I know from my own past, that payment plans worked well with a need to budget week to week. So, feel free to talk this over with me, if this is something you feel you need to get you on the road to helping you get your life back on track.

If you want to fast track your journey to triumph over your trials, click this link 

Here are the top 10 tips of today’s episode

  • Have safe people who you can turn to in a crisis
  • Have a safety plan prepared just in case something happens and you need to leave.
  • Talk over the safety plan with your children when you are calm.
  • Call the police if you need immediate help.
  • Make sure your children know what to do in an emergency.
  • Have an excuse prepared in case you need to leave because you are feeling unsafe.
  • Plan somewhere you can go in a hurry like a friend’s or a family member.
  • Keep a contact list of safe people and supports in your phone and in your emergency bag.
  • Tap into charitable supports if you need to.
  • The most expensive gift is not necessarily the best. Try to give something to your children which will mean something to them.

 

I hope that this interview keeps the Christmas spirit ignited and that you have peace and joy throughout the holiday season!

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

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Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace, and joy,

 

Sandy J

Ep 23 - It’s time to end the stigma with relationship abuse!

Ep 23 - It’s time to end the stigma with relationship abuse!

December 13, 2020

On today’s episode I have Whytli Rogers co-founder of End the Stigma.

I am so happy to have a young person’s voice on the podcast to speak to other’s who might be listening who can relate to her and her experiences.

She speaks openly about her very first relationship as a 15-year-old in high school which was mentally and sexually abusive. She shares her experiences of how she was beaten down mentally and suffered from severe anxiety, depression, and suicide attempts. And after that relationship, she had to learn to love herself again, prioritize her mental health, and rise above the pain.

What she discovered when she decided to speak out about her experiences openly on social media is that she was contacted my other women from all age groups and walks of life saying how much her experience was like her own.

Whytli continues to try and end the stigma around mental and sexual abuse and anxiety and depression. She has her own podcast In The Wake with Whytli and she is a certified life coach.

The Top Ten Takeaways from today’s show

  • Talking openly about what your anxiety or depression looks like is the biggest thing to help end the stigma.
  • Try to advocate for your own mental health to help people help you the way you need.
  • Keep in mind that people who don’t know what to do may make assumptions they know what is best for you.
  • Get curious and ask yourself questions to help you respond to your needs when you are dealing with anxiety and depression.
  • You are the only one who can do the inner work.
  • When you are in a higher state or neutral state, try and plan ahead for what you need if you become triggered.
  • If you process your trauma it can help you to function better with day-to-day life.
  • Writing affirmations post trauma in a journal before bedtime can speak directly to your subconscious mind and help to calm you.

A few examples: I am safe, I survived, I am no longer in that relationship anymore, he cannot hurt me anymore, he has no power over me.

  • Educate yourself by reading books, listening to podcasts like this one, looking within groups to learn all you can about abuse.
  • Understand it’s ok to say no.

We openly share our trials, tears and triumphs in this conversation about the path to healing and realisation on the other side of an abusive relationship, and ultimately, the importance of learning to love yourself.

I hope that you enjoy this talk with this extraordinary young woman using her experience to help other’s not feel alone in what they are going through.

All the links to find Whytli Rogers are below.

I hope that this interview inspires you too, to RISE and SHINE!

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

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CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

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NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

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BEFORE YOU GO….

  • If you listen to the Podcast and you like it, please SUBSCRIBE, you will automatically be updated with new episodes as soon as they are available.

 

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  • For your FREE GUIDE, or a ONE ON ONE CALL ON ME, or to approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

  • If you want to be a part of the Private Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Facebook Group click this link

 

  • If you would like to connect with Whytli Rogers via Facebook click this link 
  • If you would like to connect with Whytli Rogers via Instagram click this link 

Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

 

Ep 22 - Is Love Enough? Toxic Relationships - Worth Holding Onto? Or Time to Let Go?

Ep 22 - Is Love Enough? Toxic Relationships - Worth Holding Onto? Or Time to Let Go?

December 6, 2020

On today’s episode I have the lovely Kelly Darling, co-author with her sister Sophie S Fort of the book Is Love Enough? Toxic Relationships – Worth Holding Onto? Or Time to Let Go?

In this conversation we dive deep to ask the question is love enough?

Sophie and Kelly were raised in an environment of family violence and alcoholism. This upbringing led them to be unable to form a clear sense of what a healthy relationship is and left them both open to breakdowns in their marriages.

Kelly now works as a counsellor, predominantly with couples. She also works with individuals who struggle to understand their internal pain and support them as they continue their quest for belonging and love. Sophie runs Sands (Pregnancy, Newborn and Infant Loss) in an area of the South Island in New Zealand and has a diploma in Life Coaching.

The Top Ten Takeaways from today’s show

  • If you can’t find your voice in your relationship or if it doesn’t feel safe, it is a good idea to seek some support with counselling, therapy and coaching.
  • If you are asking when is it good to do couple’s counselling? It is good when both people in the relationship are open to working on the issues and still have trust in each other.
  • Life is a process, anything we do in life is a process. In relationships finding out what you are worth and what you deserve can be a painful process.
  • If you are miserable and lacking joy in your life, ask yourself why and get support.
  • Your life is also your children’s life. What you are living, your children are living too.
  • When we make mistakes, we have to have compassion for ourselves and acknowledge we’re not perfect and try to learn from this to do better next time.
  • When you make a mistake try and have self-validation by saying I am going through a lot right now, so it is understandable if we cry, or we fall down, but don’t stay down, get up again.
  • Love = safe connection

Safe conflict in a relationship = growth

In love actions need to = words

  • If there is no conflict in a relationship, then someone may have lost their voice and themselves in the relationship.
  • Anxiety and fear steals, all your energy. If you stay in self-pity you can’t be productive, you can get trapped.

We openly share our trials, tears and triumphs in this conversation about the complexities of toxic relationships and when to stay and when to go.

I hope that you enjoy this talk with this wonderful woman using her passion to help people with their relationships and you take a look at the book that she has co-written with her sister Sophie.

All the links to find the book are listed below.

I hope that this interview inspires you too, to RISE and SHINE!

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

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CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

______________________________________________________________________________

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

______________________________________________________________________________

 

BEFORE YOU GO….

  • If you listen to the Podcast and you like it, please SUBSCRIBE, you will automatically be updated with new episodes as soon as they are available.

 

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  • For your FREE GUIDE, or a ONE ON ONE CALL ON ME, or to approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

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Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

 

Ep 21 - A lone parent establishes a successful business with synergy

Ep 21 - A lone parent establishes a successful business with synergy

November 29, 2020

On today’s episode I have the amazing, articulate lone parent and successful business owner of My Body Couture, Janis Isaman.

In this conversation we explore what it takes for a lone parent to create a successful business.

We canvas he differences and the similarities between lone parents and single parents.

Janis came from a successful career in the media and when she found herself in a position of being a lone parent from the time she was pregnant with her child.

She faced a crossroad of which path she would follow in combining her work life with her life as a sole parent. Would she return to her demanding job in the media or take the leap and create her own business?

We talk about women’s right to choose a path which works best for them in creating a healthy sustainable work/life balance, a subject which many women feel judged on.

Janis pursued her passion in health, pain management and nutrition to help people experience relief from chronic pain and create and cultivate sustainable healthy habits. Anyone who has experienced chronic pain will know the relief they experience when their pain levels are diminished and how this helps them in every area of their lives to function better and more effectively. 

This is a great interview to listen to if you are thinking about becoming an entrepreneur and starting up your own business while juggling single or lone parenting.

TOP 10 TAKEAWAY’S FROM THIS EPISODE

  • Life not a linear path.
  • The decisions that we make do go in ebbs and flows.
  • Women should be free to choose how they juggle work and parenting without judgement.
  • Take measured risks when making big changes.
  • Position yourself to be successful by taking achievable steps.
  • Put yourself first, because no one else is going to.
  • We’re all part of the same humanity, we all go through struggles. It’s about how we come out the other side.
  • For chronic pain and stress related pain try Yin Yoga or Yamuna Body Rolling.
  • There is no fast food or short cut that can make up for the benefits of eating whole foods.
  • When we move towards the things we love, we can have that life we really dream of.

We openly share our trials, tears and triumphs in this conversation about creating a life we love when faced with shouldering all the responsibilities of parenting on your own.

I hope that you enjoy this talk with this amazing woman using her passion to help people with their pain and setting such a brilliant example for other women to follow as to how to combine your own business with the role of being a single or sole parent.

I hope that this interview inspires you too, to RISE and SHINE!

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

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CAUTION: If you feel unsafe at any time please STOP LISTENING. You can come back anytime you are in a safe place to listen to the rest of the Podcast. YOUR SAFETY is the most important thing to consider.

If you are in immediate DANGER call the Police.

______________________________________________________________________________

NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

______________________________________________________________________________

 

BEFORE YOU GO….

  • If you listen to the Podcast and you like it, please SUBSCRIBE, you will automatically be updated with new episodes as soon as they are available.

 

  • If you like the episode, please leave a REVIEW for other people to know that this has value.

 

  • If you know of anyone you think this Podcast might help, please SHARE it.

 

  • For your FREE GUIDE, or a ONE ON ONE CALL ON ME, or to approach me to share your story and your message click this link 

 

  • If you want to be a part of the Private Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Facebook Group click this link

 

Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J

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