Ep 49 - Learn How To Become Safely Embodied In Your Healing Journey From Trauma

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE DEIRDRE FAY INTERVIEW

LEARN HOW TO BECOME SAFELY EMBODIED IN YOUR HEALING JOURNEY FROM TRAUMA

Deirdre Fay is the author of the book Becoming Self Embodied.

She has worked in a Yoga Ashram, has studied Trauma, is a trainer for Sensory-Motor Psychotherapy, is certified in the Internal Family Systems model, is a mindful self-compassion teacher, is also trained in compassion-focused therapy, life force yoga and so much more.   

Tune in to hear how Dierdre turned her own trauma into her life's work.

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Here are the top tips of today’s episode:

• The thing about trauma is it can make you want to disappear from yourself, and your own internal pain, from others and from life.
• When we are feeling traumatised we no longer feel safe inside ourselves.
• Trauma causes disconnection and disassociation. 
• Trauma is not a one and done thing. It is a part of your life, a part of your journey.
• I just love this point, so I want you to please listen very carefully. Getting the right support can help us to stop being victimised by our own history. What this means is that you can get out of victim mode, or victim mentality and still be triggered by your trauma leading you to still feeling victimised by your history with the experiences you have had which caused the trauma. Understanding that when you are on a recovery path that you become better supported and equipped to stop being victimised by those experiences when triggers occur. 
• Although trauma is crippling, we can't let it cripple us. 
• The more that you are able to go about daily life despite you feeling like just withdrawing, the less you will fall into unhealthy mind loops. We can pause and do our healing work in the midst of the rest of life.
• Use 5 times as many positive affirmations or affirming activities to every bit of negative self-talk or negative challenge. 
• When you experience trauma you can fall into a well with seemingly no way out, until someone comes along and helps pull us out of that well. I love this analogy because it shows how easy it is for us to fall into the depths of despair in our human frailty and it also shows that at these times it is perfectly understandable to need someone else to help pull us up and out of the depths of despair. These are the times in our lives where it is the right time to call for help. 
• The trigger is there because there is some emotional or psychological need that we didn't get met. 
• There are fundamental attachment needs that we need as human beings, they are to feel safe physically, emotionally and energetically and to belong to a group of people. So what our triggers do is point us to the unmet need in us. 
• When fundamental attachment needs are unmet in us children we become ashamed of them and shut them down.
• So at the moment when we are triggered, we can ask ourselves what do we need that is unmet at that moment we can reassure ourselves and ask ourselves how we can get that. 
• We have to change our internal representation so that we can have a different experience. 
• Slow down, it will help you to orient yourself and find your place of calm.
• When you are on your healing journey and something triggers you, it can take you back to the experience which caused the trauma, and you may be questioning why you are still so affected when you are already so far along your healing journey. It is understanding the energetic charge of the experience is the thing that is causing you to feel so affected by the trigger. Understanding that this emotional explosion is grounded in the past and that this is not your present and then finding reminders in your present to create the that was then, but this is now and now is different is where you can draw strength from in those moments.

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

If you would like to connect with Dierdre Fay use these links

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Book Becoming Safely Embodied

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Today's episode is proudly sponsored by Kim Lengling Author

Kim helps people get their words into books. To work with Kim go to her website.

https://www.kimlenglingauthor.com/

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