Ep 22 - Is Love Enough? Toxic Relationships - Worth Holding Onto? Or Time to Let Go?

On today’s episode I have the lovely Kelly Darling, co-author with her sister Sophie S Fort of the book Is Love Enough? Toxic Relationships – Worth Holding Onto? Or Time to Let Go?

In this conversation we dive deep to ask the question is love enough?

Sophie and Kelly were raised in an environment of family violence and alcoholism. This upbringing led them to be unable to form a clear sense of what a healthy relationship is and left them both open to breakdowns in their marriages.

Kelly now works as a counsellor, predominantly with couples. She also works with individuals who struggle to understand their internal pain and support them as they continue their quest for belonging and love. Sophie runs Sands (Pregnancy, Newborn and Infant Loss) in an area of the South Island in New Zealand and has a diploma in Life Coaching.

The Top Ten Takeaways from today’s show

• If you can’t find your voice in your relationship or if it doesn’t feel safe, it is a good idea to seek some support with counselling, therapy and coaching.
• If you are asking when is it good to do couple’s counselling? It is good when both people in the relationship are open to working on the issues and still have trust in each other.
• Life is a process, anything we do in life is a process. In relationships finding out what you are worth and what you deserve can be a painful process.
• If you are miserable and lacking joy in your life, ask yourself why and get support.
• Your life is also your children’s life. What you are living, your children are living too.
• When we make mistakes, we have to have compassion for ourselves and acknowledge we’re not perfect and try to learn from this to do better next time.
• When you make a mistake try and have self-validation by saying I am going through a lot right now, so it is understandable if we cry, or we fall down, but don’t stay down, get up again.
• Love = safe connection

Safe conflict in a relationship = growth

In love actions need to = words

• If there is no conflict in a relationship, then someone may have lost their voice and themselves in the relationship.
• Anxiety and fear steals, all your energy. If you stay in self-pity you can’t be productive, you can get trapped.

We openly share our trials, tears and triumphs in this conversation about the complexities of toxic relationships and when to stay and when to go.

I hope that you enjoy this talk with this wonderful woman using her passion to help people with their relationships and you take a look at the book that she has co-written with her sister Sophie.

All the links to find the book are listed below.

I hope that this interview inspires you too, to RISE and SHINE!

Subscribe. Enjoy. Share. Sending love and light, Sandy J

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NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT: If you are struggling with your metal health please reach out for support with some form of counselling, therapy, or coaching.  If you don’t know where to start to find a counsellor, a good place to start is to talk to your Doctor. There are also many online counselling supports now available. If the Support Person is not a good fit for you, try another and another, until you have one that is the right fit for you. And don't forget, I help women to heal and grow, and help them to meet their challenges head on, to move towards a life they love. 

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Until next time, stay well and stay safe.

Sending you love, light, peace and joy,

 

Sandy J